“Where there is love, there is no consciousness of relationship. Only in a state of resistance can there be this consciousness, which is merely an adjustment of opposing conflicts.”
— J. Krishnamurti
Do you demand that your pet always behave how you want? No. You love it even when it’s being destructively mischievous, or moody, or when it doesn’t play with you.
Then why behave differently with the human beings you love? Why get angry, upset, or mad when they don’t do what you want? Why have high expectations from them? Expectation is not love, it’s shop-keeping. (“I will give you this in exchange for that.”)
Wouldn’t it be better to accept them unconditionally? To be fully present when you’re with them rather than expecting them to understand why you’re distracted or preoccupied? Do what’s best for them (which sometimes means doing what they need even if they—or you—don’t want it.) Live for them as much as you live for yourself.
This is love in a relationship, where resistance has no place.