“In the midst of conflict there is no understanding at all, only a blind struggle. Conflict leads to apathy, to delusion. We must go outside the pattern of duality for creative, revolutionary understanding.”
— J. Krishnamurti
When an argument between partners goes out of control, an outsider is needed to resolve it—a therapist, a common friend, or a wise elder. Why? Because each arguing party’s voice in their own head is so loud that they drown out what the other is saying. Only the outsider can see things for what they are.
Likewise, when we get in conflict with ourselves when the voices in our heads are so loud that they drowns out the truth that life is trying to teach us. When we refuse the acknowledge how karma works, for instance, we delude ourselves into believing that we are entitled to more than what we have.
Conflict makes us delusional.
We must remember that we are bound by dharma—the Natural Order that keeps the cosmos in balance. Not enslaved, but bound, like we are by the laws of physics and mathematics. (Karma is a part of dharma.)
So what we need when things are not going well is not conflict, but patience. We need to do our duty while maintaining our belief in a higher power (God, the Universe, the Circle of Life, anything). Not only will the reasons reveal themselves, things will also work out for the better in the end.
This is what leads to a “creative, revolutionary understanding.”