“Will is not strengthened by change. It is weakened and enslaved by it. But we must always be absorbing. Will grows stronger by absorption.”
— Swami Vivekananda
Your team gets a new manager. Your best friend since childhood moves to a different state. The weather turns unexpectedly hot or cold. Such events are enough to upset your routine and peace of mind.
Change creates resistance, which, in turn, affects your willpower. (And willpower is like a muscle; the more you use it, the weaker it becomes.)
What if you didn’t resist? What if you decided to make the best of what you have? You could ask your new manager what their expectations are, and make it your job to deliver them (so long as they’re not unethical). After your friend moves away, you could pursue a hobby in your free time. You could use the cold weather as an excuse to wear the jacket you love, or switch to a sāttvik diet of fruits, curd, and buttermilk if the weather is hot.
Wouldn’t life become easier? Wouldn’t you feel more equipped to handle anything that comes your way?
When you expect things to be a certain way, you limit yourself. When you accept things for what they are, you adapt, strengthen your willpower, and grow.