“Only through action can you truly perceive that authority, beliefs, ideals are definite hindrances to intelligence, to love.”
— J. Krishnamurti
Nobody, regardless of position, status, or relationship with you, can tell you what to think, what (or whom) to believe, what is possible, or what your dreams should be. (If anyone tries, steer clear from them.)
It’s for you to figure all of this out for yourself—through action and contemplation of those actions. This is what leads to insight that eventually translates into wisdom, not the other way around.